A Valentine’s Day discussion from someone who engages in polyamorous relationships.
Welcome to the psychologically complex and wacky world of polyamory, where people have romantic relationships with more than one person at a time. While there are many kinds of people in open relationships – swingers, polygamists (hello, Utah!), and orgy enthusiasts just to name a few – polyamorists identify themselves as people who can love more than one person at once. We aren’t poly just because we want sex with multiple partners, though admittedly that part is great. Ultimately, we’re in it for the love.
With all the extra amour going on among the polyamorously inclined, you’d think Valentine’s Day would be our holiday, kind of like Pride for the nonmonogamous. But for some weird reason Hallmark hasn’t made any cards you can send to your husband’s boyfriend; and there are no candy hearts that say “Be ours.” And so on V-Day all of us who are in nonproprietary relationships with our sweeties have to improvise.
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Clearly this also reveals heteronormativity, heterosexual privilege, and other aspects of sexuality often assumed to be universal or at least more broadly practiced than they are.
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